How to not just Survive but Thrive as an Empath!
If you identify yourself as an empath you may feel defenceless in the presence of others emotions, stress and physical discomfort. You may absorb their every hurt, worry and ache. It is draining and can lead to your own emotional burnout. It is so important to develop a strategy to survive. A number of times in my life previously I felt like I’ve have no control because I’ve just believed that how I was feeling was dependent on how the people that I loved were feeling at any given time. Once I learnt that there were different techniques to use to protect and support myself I had a huge sense of freedom. Practising these on a consistent basis meant I could reclaim my life back.
1. Try and recognise that you are becoming “drama fixer”. This is someone who by default is the person that everybody else goes to get their support. As a result it becomes so much part of your identity that it’s hard to imagine yourself as the person that doesn’t try and make everybody else feel better.Once I realised that focusing on other people meant that I was not facing up to my own problems and struggles I knew that the balance needed to shift. Accepting that it was not my job to make everybody else happy and nor could I “save” them I was able to face my fears,start to address my own difficulties and actually move forward in my life.
2. Learn to give yourself a chance to rest if you’re close friends and family are going through a difficult time. It’s okay to make time to yourself, : walk in nature even if it’s just to take a bath for half an hour it will make a difference to your resilience. The old saying “you can’t pour from an empty cup” is a powerful one that has started to finally impact me over these last few years.
3. Practising staying present and breathing can really help you not to allow others emotions to sink deep into you. If you have spent some time with somebody who drained you or after a difficult conversation or event it’s okay to come home and perform a simple clearing ceremony. A recommend smudging yourself with dried sage and release all the negative energy around you and your home.
4. Learn to ground yourself and expel any bad thoughts and feelings. You can do this in nature with your bare feet on the ground. However you can also achieve this by going somewhere quiet ,sitting with your back straight and your feet firmly planted on the floor, closing your eyes and visualising a cord at the bottom of your feet going down to the earths core. By grounding yourself you will feel connected to the earth and to your stability and core. There are a number of grounding medications available. The one by Rebecca Campbell is the best that I have used. Grounding helps you to have a sense of being in control and that you are supported.
5. If you’re struggling give yourself a chance to slow down and switch off from sensory overload. Unplug yourself from all technology and retreat into a room where it is quiet. Take a few minutes to have a nap or meditate and give yourself a chance to re-calibrate.
6. Before you go out each morning complete a protective visualisation where are you imagine a beautiful shield of white or golden light from the top of your head and all around your body. Think of this as a shield of protection and when you’re out in the world consider anybody’s words thoughts or actions and see them as bouncing off your shield rather than impacting negatively on how are you feel. If you struggle with visualisation create some simple affirmations to say on a regular basis. Such as: I will protect my energy around training people. I will learn to set healthy boundaries. I will learn to say no at the right time. I listen to at my intuition about the relationships that do nothing for me.
I’d love to know if this helps you! Anne.x