How to not just Survive but Thrive as an Empath!
Are you a Sponge?? (4 Easy Ways to tell if you have the heart of an Empath)
Are you a Sponge? And I don’t mean a hot treacle dessert from the UK!
What I am referring to is actually an emotional sponge.
The technical term is Empath!
Ordinary empathy means your heart goes out to another understanding their enjoy or their pain. Being an Empath, it means it goes much further. You actually feel others emotions ,their energy and physical symptoms in your body without the usual defenses that most people have. Being an Empath means that you consents subtle energy and internalize the feelings pain and physical sensations of others.
Often an empath will feel everything to an extreme and have little regard the train others and yourself. Empaths are emotional sponges who absorb both the stress and the joy of the world. However, as a result you are often overwhelmed by excess stimulation or are prone to exhaustion and sensory overload.
Clearly there are many good sides to being an empath-being intuitive ,reading people easily and experiencing the richness of being open to life. Empaths have big hearts and want to help others. They are dreamers ,idealists ,passionate creatives and in touch with their emotions. Their ability to synchronize with others moods helps them foster good relationships. However, they can become overstimulated and prone to emotional and burnout.
Sometimes they over give to other people thinking that they could heal them without including your own needs in the mix. Relationships were draining and stat preventing you from everything and you start losing yourself.
And here’s the science bit!!
Empaths of thought to have hyper responsive mirror neurons that make them deeply resonate with other people’s feelings so when their child cries they feel sad and when their friend is happy they feel happy.
When I heard about being an Empath I had this huge sense of relief!
After nearly 30 years of caring for others in my job as a social worker, as a single mum and in every aspect of my life I began to realise that I actually was using looking after the people as a way of avoiding connecting to my own feelings. It was easier for me to focus on others emotions than to understand my own. Although I was supporting others through difficult life challenges , I wasn’t expressing my own struggles and feelings.
Suddenly I had this overwhelming understanding of my history and my own life and of why I often felt so drained and in danger of feeling like a victim of my own story.
The first step to making any change is always awareness. Just being able to understand and see the reason for how we have been feelings suddenly change doesn’t seem quite so hard and impossible.
Here are 4 easy ways to know if you have the heart of an Empath.
1. You are quick to take on others’ moods.
When you are talking to somebody who is very down or angry do you find that before you know it you feel the same? Sometimes these emotions will linger either after the conversation is ended. If you walk into a room with people who are stressed are you feel stressed that even speaking to anyone .Do you find that you take on other people’s fears and worries about global issues and you worry about how others feel about you?
2. Just one bad news story can send you in to a low mood and energy and affect you all day.
Some stories may affect you for several days and you may sink into a depressive state and feel hopeless. Sometimes it feels like you’re carrying the energy and emotions of people who were directly involved in tragedy or disaster.
3.You are told that you’re too sensitive.
Partners friends and family members will often tell you the that you are too sensitive. This will be over your feelings and how we react two situations and life challenges.
4.You are a good listener.
You are somebody that your friends will come to for advice on a regular basis. People tell you that you are a good listener and can help them with their problems. Sometimes when you’re out in public you have random people telling you their problems life story. Your energy is picked up on a subconscious level and some people will gravitate towards you to dump their problems on you.
Knowing what is going on inside yourself helps you to then be able to take action to improve all areas of your life.
Once I was able to identify the characteristics of my emotional state I was then able to find ways to protect myself.
I was able to learn and create strategies to clear myself of these negative energies and create different techniques to ground myself and finally be able to protect myself from the drains in my life.
It might take a little time effort and consistent action that it will make huge difference on how you feel on a day to day basis
I will talk more and go into more detail about these protection strategies in the future so watch this space!